Ephesians 5:22-33, in a Nutshell

In Ephesians 5:22-33, Paul makes several statements about the relationship between husbands and wives, and he presents the relationship between Jesus and the Church as a model or example. Some think Jesus’ authority is given here as an example for husbands to follow. Rather, unity is the example, and Paul uses a head-body metaphor to illustrate this.

Metaphorically, Jesus is the “head” united to the Church, which is his “body” (Eph. 5:23, 30). Unity was made possible, and is maintained, because Jesus loves the Church and gave himself up for her. The Church sustains this union by being cooperative and faithful to Jesus.

In marriage, the husband (the metaphorical “head”) and the wife (the metaphorical “body”) are united. To foster this unity, Paul urges husbands to love their wives “as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Eph 5:25). He further urges husbands to “love their own wives as they love their own bodies,” and adds, “He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the Church” (Eph. 5:28-29).

Paul continues with the theme of unity by quoting Genesis 2:24, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Eph. 5:31). (Note that leadership and authority are not mentioned in this passage.)

Paul was not teaching husbands to be leaders, and wives to be followers. Instead, he urged husbands to love and nurture their wives, and he urged wives to be deferential, cooperative and loyal (i.e. submissive), as well as respectful, to their husbands (Eph. 5:22, 33b).

In Ephesians 5:22-33, husbands and wives are singled out and given instructions concerning certain attitudes and behaviours. But this doesn’t mean wives are exempt from being loving and nurturing towards their husbands, or husbands are exempt from being submissive and respectful towards their wives, especially as Ephesians 5:22-33 is prefaced by a call for all to be mutually submissive (Eph. 5:21), and chapter 5 opens with a call for all to love sacrificially (Eph. 5:1-2).

Compare the almost identical language used in Ephesians 5:2 and in Ephesians 5:25:

“. . . walk in love (ἐν ἀγάπῃ),
just as Christ also loved (καθὼς καὶ ὁ Χριστὸς ἠγάπησεν) you
and gave Himself up for (καὶ παρέδωκεν ἑαυτὸν ὑπέρ) us . . .” (Eph. 5:2).

“Husbands, love (ἀγαπᾶτε) your wives,
just as Christ also loved (καθὼς καὶ ὁ Χριστὸς ἠγάπησεν) the church
and gave Himself up for (καὶ ἑαυτὸν παρέδωκεν ὑπέρ) her . . .” (Eph. 5:25).

The instructions for mutual submission and sacrificial love in Ephesians 5:1-2 and 21 are given to all Paul’s readers; submission isn’t just for wives, sacrificial love isn’t just for husbands.

Genuine and reciprocal love and faithfulness were absent in many marriages in the first-century Greco-Roman world. It is in this context that Paul wrote Ephesians 5:22-33 and pressed for unity in Christian marriage, with the union of Jesus and the Church as the model.

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